Look for an Opening

• Try an indirect approach:
  
  • Example: an article you've read.
  • Example: a friend or family member’s situation.
  • Example: something you saw on the news.
• Find an ideal place to have the conversation – i.e., one that is quiet enough to talk or a relaxed setting.

Set the Tone

• Use “I” statements. Starting sentences with “You need to …” or “You just have to …” puts people on the defensive. Instead try “I am concerned about …” or “I want to support you with ….”
• Sincerely express your love and concern.
• Listen with an open mind, then rephrase and reflect back what you've heard from them.

Explain Your Intentions

• Be clear about your concerns.
• Don’t assume that you know the full story/what is going on.
• Expect conflicts, but don't be afraid to talk through them.

Explore the Options

• Discuss together some possible approaches to improve the situation.
• It may take more than one conversation to figure things out.